10 Things I’ve Learned About Being Pregnant

Lately, I have become obsessed with reading other “mommy blogs”. I have read all about pregnancy, delivery, post-baby, how-to’s, what-not-to-do’s, product reviews…everything! It’s great that people’s personal experience and advice is so readily available to us new Moms who don’t know what to expect. While I do not agree with every one of them, I definitely feel more prepared.

One trend I see throughout these blogs is “what I’ve learned while being pregnant” posts. Moms (or future Moms) have created many lists of “What no one tells you about being pregnant”, “What they loved/hated about being pregnant”, “What they discovered/learned during pregnancy”, etc. Because I’m not one to miss out on a bandwagon, I figure I’ll jump on and share my own lists.

Here it goes:

10 Things I Have Learned/Discovered/Been Surprised About/ Think You Should Know about Being Pregnant

  1. It has been awesome to my body…besides the whole gaining weight, skin-stretching stuff. My skin is the clearest it’s been since I was 12.  My hair is so thick, healthy and shiny. And, my nails are super long, strong and grow like wild fire. My boobs are bigger (obviously) and I feel pretty darn good most of the time. Not everyone is so lucky, and I assumed I’d be one of those pregnant women with horrible acne and skin-discoloration, but my God am I relieved to have the opposite!2.
  2. I do not mind weird pregnancy questions from anyone. Lots of people have told me how annoying it is to have so many people ask you things like “How much weight have you gained? Are you going to breastfeed? Are you happy? Do you want more kids? Blah blah blah”, but there has yet to be a question to bother me. In fact, I LOVE when people ask me anything about being pregnant. It’s all I’m thinking about anyways, so it’s nice to know that someone else is interested. Plus, pregnancy is a crazy miraculous experience that is hard to imagine if you’ve never been pregnant, so why not ask questions???
  3. Questions have been no problem, but I have been offended and surprised by some people’s comments. It is very surprising how many people have told me on some level or another that my life is basically over… It mostly makes me sad for them and whatever experience they had or are having. In case you are wondering, it’s not very polite to tell expecting parents that parenting is no fun. I get that it is not always fun and it’d definitely hard, but let’s try to keep things a little more positive.
  4. No strangers have touched my belly. I was told this would happen all the time. It has yet to happen.
  5. I am the most calm and level-headed I have possibly ever been. So, not only has pregnancy done wonders for my skin and hair, but also for my mind. No panic attacks since I was about 12 weeks…woohoo!
  6. A few pregnancy symptoms I did not know about until actually being pregnant? My gums and nose bleed all the time. My hips and tailbone ache a lot. Sitting up and getting out of the bed are oh-so difficult. My eyes are super dry and sometimes blurry. There’s lots of other strange things that happen, but I was prepared for the rest.
  7. People are often super nice and polite to you while pregnant. Most people will offer to carry things, help you up or down or give you their seat. 99% of the time I say “no thanks!” because I feel great or even prefer to stand, but the 1% of the time that I REALLY need to sit or need help, no one offers. I have learned to just ask during these times.
  8. I LOVE being pregnant and experiencing all of these crazy movements and changes. It really is the coolest thing I’ve ever done. However, I also miss my body, being able to move like a normal person and wear regular clothes. I’m sure I’ll miss being pregnant once it’s all said and done, but right now I’d like to be able to let Husband carry her for a little while.
  9. Feeling the baby move is WAY more exciting for me than for Husband. I wish he could feel what I feel, but he can’t and it’s just not as crazy cool to him as it is to me. It kind of sucks that he’ll never know what it’s like, but I’m pretty sure he considers himself lucky.
  10.  EVERY SINGLE PERSON gives you advice on being pregnant, delivering a baby and raising a child. Everyone has an opinion, idea, suggestion or comment and wants to be taken very seriously. My advice to you is keep in mind that everyone means well and wants to help. Your family and friends are so excited and love you and the baby so much, they just want to be a part of the experience. So soak it in, appreciate their help, write down the best advice, take the rest with a grain of salt and learn to nod and smile for that crazy relative who tells you that lying the baby down after it eats will make milk come out of its ears. They mean well.


What I DON’T Miss About NYC

The view from Brooklyn Bridge
The view from Brooklyn Bridge

After my last Top Ten, “What I Miss About NYC“, I think it’s only fair that I write another…..”What I Don’t Miss About NYC”. So, let’s get down to it.

1. My smoking neighbors. I think everyone in my “non-smoking” building smoked weed and cigarettes. Since our walls were thin and a billion years old (give or take a few) we had a constant whiff of smoke seeping into our apartment. Eww.

2. The extra expenses. EVERYTHING in NY is soooo expensive. Groceries, toiletries and restaurants are two or three times as expensive as anywhere else. Don’t even get me started on the fashion…

3. Winter. Way too cold and way too long. Brrrrrr rabbit.

4. Rude waiters and sales clerks. I am typically on New York’s side when I hear that “people in NY are rude.” I defended New Yorkers by saying “People just keep to themselves,” “people are in a hurry,” or, “they are just as nice as people anywhere, you just don’t know them!” The majority of waiters and sales clerks do not get my defense though. They are just plain rude. New York has the worst customer service I have ever experienced.

5. The radiator. The radiator in our apartment sounded like someone was beating metal poles with a baseball bat ALL NIGHT LONG. It also made our tiny apartment exactly 250 degrees, even when we turned it off.

6. The laundromat. I don’t really think this needs explanation, but in case you are one of those lucky people who have always had a washer and dryer in your home I’ll help you understand. The next time you need to do laundry, preferably when the hamper is over-flowing, grab your hamper, detergent and bag of quarters and walk 2 or 3 block to the nearest laundomat. Now spend a couple of hours doing laundry, throw it all back in the hamper and walk back to your 4th floor walk-up apartment. Then, let me know how much fun you had.

7. No bathtub and no dishwasher. We missed both of these very important amenities in both Albania and NYC. I will never again take these simple things for granted!

8. The stairs. Our house has stairs, which I love, but they are nothing compared to living in a 4-floor walk up. Carrying groceries, shopping bags and luggage home always sucked. But the worst…the absolute worst…is when I’d leave for work with just enough time, get to the bottom floor and realize I left either my keys, my purse, an umbrella, my shoes or my lunch upstairs.

9. Tiny space. Our NY apartment was less than 400 square feet. It was cozy and just right for a short time in the city, but only  a short time. I LOVE how much space and how many closets we have now! It’s glorious!

10. Dog poop. I hated picking up Belle’s poop when I walked her. I hated constantly looking out for other’s dog poop that was not picked up even more.

There it is…sorry New York, but you aren’t perfect.

(I still miss you though.)


What I Miss About NYC

It’s been a while since my last “top ten” post, and boy am I ready for another one! Tonight/this morning I am up and thinking about NYC. Today a friend asked me if I miss the city, and of course I do. Who wouldn’t? So tonight’s top ten is..

“Top Ten Things I Miss About NYC”

1.  My job. Looking for a new one stinks, especially since I really loved my old job. It’s so rare to find a job you love, a boss you love in a location you love.

2. Central Park. Tennessee is full of nature and breathtaking views, but I still miss walking to Central Park, taking Belle to “off leash hours”, picnicking and people watching. No park can compare to Central Park.

3.  The FOOD! OMG, why don’t the nice men on bicycles ride to Nashville to deliver my favorite vegetarian dishes at 2am?! I miss the pizza, the bagels, the Indian restaurant near my apartment, diner breakfast and it’s only been a few weeks!

4. Public Transportation. I never thought I’d miss the subway, but it’s a hell of a lot cheaper than buying gas. It was also nice to just sit and read while someone else did the driving. subway

5. The shopping. I miss Madison and 5th so much. Not that I could afford to shop on Madison and 5th, but window shopping was mine and Husband’s favorite way to relax.

"I'm throwing on my Louboutins"
“I’m throwing on my Louboutins”

6. The views. We may have snuck onto the roof the Parker Meridian fairly often to enjoy its view of the city, but we also love the view from many other rooftops…half of which were legal.

A rooftop bar is totally legal.
A rooftop bar is totally legal.

7. New exciting things and events every weekend. There is always something new to do in NY. The Daily Candy and Time Out NY always kept me up on the latest exhibits, new store openings, upcoming concerts, Broadway premiers, fashion shows, free festivals, street fairs, comedy shows, park events and so much more. NY has something for everyone…and LOTS for me.

8. The fashion. I loved just looking at what everyone was wearing, but I really loved the fact that I could wear anything I wanted and not be judged. New York is probably the only place that you will see a girl in stilettos, a guy dressed in candy wrappers, someone half-naked, someone else wrapped in cellophane, people in pajamas and people in designer gowns all within feet of each other. No one even gives them a second glance because a)they could be going anywhere or coming from anywhere and b) who cares? Now, in Tennessee, I get stares if I wear a sheer top or tie-dyed wedges.

9. Broadway. I think we saw over 30 shows in the two years we lived in NY. I loved being able to pick up half-price tickets in Time Square on a whim any night we felt like going out.

The night we met Jeff Godbloom on Broadway.
The night we met Jeff Godbloom on Broadway.

10. Zoey. Yep, I miss you Zoey.




Top Ten Monday

Last night, I write out a list of everything I planned to get done today, starting with waking up at 6:30am.

HAHAHAHAHA! Yeah, I fell asleep at 2am while watching TV on the couch and did not get up anywhere close to 6:30. That’s okay though…I’m forgiving myself because it was my only day off this week, and I still managed to do almost everything on my to-do list. Booyah!

You know I love my Top Ten’s, so here’s my Top Ten Fav Moments of My Monday:

1. It was 70 degrees out and I wore a tank top! Hallelujah!

2. I did an old “Inhale” Steve Ross yoga workout and heard “Stomp” by Kirk Franklin. Talk about a flash back!

3. Found proof that it is actually spring.



4. Had a wonderful and long conversation with one of my closest friends.

5. Grocery shopped and made dinner all by myself.

6. Heard from Husband, and the house inspection seemed to go well!

7. Watched DTWS and oh my…I got teary-eyed four times! Grant it…it’s an emotional time of the month for me.

8. Gave myself a spring mani/pedi.


9. Cuddled with my love pup.

10. I have plans to be in bed early and go to sleep while watching Sabrina.

All this, and still had a productive day.