Lots of Green Going On

Oh yeah! It’s holiday time, once again! Holidays are even better now because instead of just dressing up myself, I get to dress up a cute little baby! Woo!

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Lots of green happening here
Lots of green happening here

We spent the day inside (darn cold weather), but we were healthy and productive so it was definitely a good day. During one of Luna’s many mini-naps, I made “Leprechaun Hats“. I found them on Pinterest and put them together to share on my other blog of work “Get Kidz Fit“.

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And, because I now fancy myself a chef, I made an amazing (if I do say so myself) green and healthy dinner. I recently learned to pan-fry tilapia, so I’ve made it 3 times in the last week. Every time I make it I ask Husband if it’s the most delicious thing he ever had…he always says yes because he knows he must play along. I then talk about how very impressed I am with myself because…well, I am. A year ago, we were only eating dinner that was delivered by bicycle. (Oh, how I miss Seamless and Manhattan!)

spicy kale, avocado salad and pan-fried tilapia
spicy kale, avocado salad and pan-fried tilapia

AND, because I’m trying to be extra healthy I made a Green Protein smoothie.

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Tomorrow, I’ll let you know how my new workout plan is going. Exercising is so important for keeping anxiety down, and I’m already feeling more zen.

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Tummy time is tiring

Happy St. Patrick’s Day!

 

Learning Something From the Men

So there’s this blog going viral that everyone is up in arms about, rightfully so I should add. Typically, I wouldn’t want to give a negative and hurtful article any attention, but this one has bothered me, and what’s bothering me, no one else seems to be discussing. The article in on thoughtcatalog.com and it’s called  I Look Down on Young Women With Husbands and Kids and I’m Not Sorry.

To be honest, I thought this was going to be a humorous post, maybe even satirical, but it comes off mean, a little ignorant and very arrogant. The most shocking of lines are..

You will never have the time, energy, freedom or mobility to be exceptional if you have a husband and kids.

The rest of the post is basically saying that having kids and getting married is super easy, and we should stop acting like it’s worth anything. Before, I get into what bothers me most about this post, I’ll give my opinion on the piece in general.

It sounds like a young girl who is unhappy with her own life. Those who shame other people’s “accomplishments” and “happiness” are clearly unhappy with themselves. It’s wonderful that this woman can choose to not be married, not have kids and live a life with a fulfilling career, but what she fails to recognize is that not everyone finds happiness in their job. We do not all feel accomplished because we got a promotion, the same way we do not all feel accomplished after bathing and feeding 3 kids. Everyone defines success and happiness differently, and that is okay. It’s not fair to assume that your way is the right way.

I have traveled the world, got multiple degrees, worked great jobs, been promoted, received tenure, yada yada yada and, uh…didn’t feel “fulfilled”. I felt great, yes, proud even, but it was not what filled my cup.

She may also want to consider the fact that most career “accomplished” women were raised by dedicated mothers, who are often married. Let’s not even get started on the fact that countless women are happy and successful at being married, raising kids and working. My pediatrician actually has 5 kids and opened up her own practice 15 years ago. Or, what about people who choose not to have kids or fancy-paying jobs? What about the people who love life living like a vagabond and just enjoy life itself? This is why I think this must be a young author with little life experiences. She doesn’t quite grasp the vast variety of values and lifestyles in our world.

Okay, but now what really bothers me is this line…

I hear women talk about how “hard” it is to raise kids and manage a household all the time. I never hear men talk about this…Men don’t care to “manage a household.” They aren’t conditioned to think stupid things like that are “important.”

If men never speak of this, it is because they do not do the housework, aren’t married or do not have children. There are many men who are stay-at-home-fathers who actually blog about these exact things every day. This got me thinking though… one thing men do not do or talk about is how much other men suck. There are no “daddy wars” happening today, only “mommy wars”.

I am so sick of all the Mom vs. Mom, breastfeeding vs. formula, stay-at-home vs. working, kids vs. no kids, vegan/gluten-free/dairy free/soy free/gmo free vs. whatever-the-hell-my-kids-want-to-eat Mom fights going on everyday. What are we doing to each other? Why? Why are we so obsessed with wanting every other Mom or woman to live, think and behave just as we do? Are we so afraid that what we are doing is wrong we must prove that every other women is actually doing it wrong? Does that make us right?

Of course not. We have to accept the fact that mothering, like teaching, or like living, does not have a “right-way”. There are many different paths and styles that lead to success. We must not all be alike to be successful. So, today, and perhaps today only, we take note of what the men are doing and stop bashing other women. The happier we are for each other, the more love and support we show one another the better off we will all be in the end.

Cheers!

 

She Works (kinda) Hard for the (not very much) Money

“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” – Maya Angelou

I am a very indecisive pregnant lady. When I found out I was expecting my decision-making process disappeared and I became incapable of deciding what I want for dinner, what to wear, when to sleep and any big life decision is just too much to handle. One of these big life decisions included my career.

In the last 6 years I have taught public elementary school, coached middle school dance and drama, tutored kids, taught overseas for an international elementary school, nannied, coached gymnastics, dance and yoga for fancy Manhattan preschoolers and managed social media for the same fancy pants preschool. Clearly, I like working with kids and being active, but cannot really decide what I “want to be when I grow up”. Six months ago, we decided to leave NYC for the country life in Tennessee AND discovered I was pregnant.

Being pregnant and not clear of what career path I want had me taking 400 different paths… I decided I definitely 100% wanted to be a stay home blogger… for exactly 4 minutes. Then, I applied for some public school teaching jobs…then, some private school jobs…preschool jobs…daycare…coaching…social media… Pretty much anything that sounded half-interesting was worth filling out an application. Two hours later, I made the final decision to work on the house, have a calm relaxing pregnancy, learn to cook and garden and prepare to be an awesome stay-at-home Mom. That lasted for a day. See the pattern?

My indecisive-self kept me from completing most applications or following through with interviews (“Mrs. Positively Panicked we’d like to interview you!” Ummm…yeah, I ‘ve changed my mind, thanks anyways.) All of the non-decision making and busy life stuff lead me to where I am now…blogging (read: making nothing), tutoring and substituting. So, basically I work randomly, have no schedule and I am kind of loving it.

I love schedules, being busy and especially adore deadlines (I need structure!), but I must say that choosing whether I not I want to go into work kind of rocks. For example, this morning it was raining/snowing, freezing outside and I slept for a total of 30 minutes last night. So, when the phone rang at 5am and I was asked nicely to come in and sub for 8 hours I said, “yeah, no thanks.” Coffee, pj’s, a big blanket, my laptop and Good Morning America just sound SO much better.

Then on days when I feel like I need some structure and motivation I get up at 4:45am, take a sub job, teach all day, tutor all night and come home feeling productive. So productive that after working 14 hours yesterday I came home, did the Asylum and made dinner! BAM. Badass.

AND, I’ve been keeping a secret from you guys, with all my time off the last few months I have actually began learning to cook (gasp!). Like, real meals not just frozen pizzas and grilled cheese, though we still eat our fair share of both. I want to transition to full-time stay-at-home Mom when Luna arrives. I want to cook healthy food for her, sew costumes, do Pinteresty crafty things and grow vegetables in the backyard, but who knows what I’ll actually do. I think that maybe all my life decisions and job changes have led  up to my biggest role yet (world’s most awesome Mom), but I can’t rule out the realistic possibility that I might want to re-enter the work force at some point.

Honestly, my indecisiveness stems from all the labels and judging I keep reading about. Every single person and their Mother seem to have very strong opinions about whether Moms should stay home or work, and I just don’t want to be labeled or a part of that argument AT ALL. Recently, I realized that I’m not judging the other women and Moms, no matter their career choice, so why am I being so hard on myself? I just need to do what’s right for us, my family, and right now, things feel good, really good.

What about all your Mom’s and Mom’s to be out there? Do you work? Stay home? Wish you were doing the opposite? Have a good combo of both? Are you even decided yet?

Either way, I just feel so very very lucky to have these options, a Husband that supports me either way and part-time job with VERY flexible hours.

Or am I? The wind may change tomorrow.

Cheers!

Herschel iPad Sleeve Winner

It’s time to giveaway another fun gift! I love these days!! Today I am announcing the winner of the Herschel Cypress Sleeve for the iPad. First, a big thanks to Herschel for making this giveaway possible, and most importantly, a HUGE thanks to everyone who entered!

Now, the winner is…..Fashion For Lunch!

Email me your address info to Positivelypanicked@gmail.com.

ipad case

Congratulations! You can check out her own blog here, where she shares her fabulous life of fashion in London.

Cheers!

Featured on Bridal Guide! Woo!

I am not back to my full time blog writing just yet, but I do have a quick post to share with you! Bridal Guide got a hold of our wedding photos from Disney and apparently thought we were an awesome couple. Bridal Guide then contacted me, asked lots of fun questions, and now…a few emails later….we are famous!

Well…maybe not famous famous, but we are posted on BridalGuide.com! They wrote about us, our wedding, and added lots of our pictures to their Real Weddings section. The first page is a couple of paragraphs about our story, and as you click through the pictures there are several more details about our special day.

I love it! If you want to check out our 5 minutes of internet fame simply click here.

Thank you Bridal Guide for sharing our story and making us feel so special!

Cheers!

I’m famous, I think

Husband and I  were featured on Disney’s Fairy Tale Honeymoon and Wedding Ever After Blog.  Their blog has a section featuring Real Weddings and Husband and I were chosen as a “real couple” and were apparently interesting enough to get our own post. Woohoo!

You can read all about us here! Really…just click right here. This makes me famous, right?! Famous enough to meet Ellen?!? Or join the cast of Dancing With The Stars?!?! Be honest.

I guess I lied the other day…I know I said I posted my last wedding post, but how can I not share this exciting news!?!?

My only concern is that Disney calls us an “eccentric couple” in their story…. I’m sure they meant to say fun and attractive.

I’ll let you know when we get our book deal.

Cheers!

This is it

Let’s hope so.

Okay people. This is it. This is my last official blog post for a few weeks.

Except that’s kind of  lie.

I have written some blogs in advance that I will post while I am away, just know I have no control over the posts or comments while I am gone…. Unless I break and decided to use the app on my iPhone. We’ll see. The goal is to stay clear of most technology.

Maybe, I’ll actually find some time to relax. I’m not even packing my laptop.

SO, if you haven’t heard, I am getting married this Saturday!!!! WOO! Zoey and I are off to Orlando at 6am tomorrow, and will be in over our heads in last minute wedding details for the next few days. The wedding is at DisneyWorld. The Honeymoon/Family Vacation is in Costa Rica, so look forward to lots of adventurous traveling blogs when I return.

Right now I am feeling SO VERY nervous. It’s the kind of nervous I used to get before dance recitals, except I’ve been feeling this way all week. I guess, in a way, the wedding is a lot like a performance. I’ll be dressed in “costume”, have my hair and makeup done, I have lines, I’ll be dancing, there will be an audience…just typing this gives me butterflies.

It is so hard to believe it was 7 years ago that I met Fiance at DisneyWorld, and a whole year ago that we got engaged! And, I’ll stop right there before I  start getting all lovey dovey on you.

Thanks to all who have helped with all the wedding festivities this year. See you very very soon!

Cheers,

The Bride!!!

You like me! You really like me!

I’ve been writing a blog for a few months now (plus a year if you count Adventures of a Teacher). I am 99% sure that my biggest followers are related to me, or soon-to-be related to me, which has always been fine. It just feels good, therapeutic even, to come here each day (although I skipped yesterday…) and rant about a terrible flight,  or describe my panicky life, or just talk about a sunny day in the park.

It’s not so important to me to have lots of followers, or so I thought…

Yesterday, another great blogger, More Than Greens, sent me a blog award nomination!  Turns out I love having followers! It felt almost as good as what I imagine winning the mirror ball trophy feels like. The official name of the award is Food Stories Award for Excellent Storytelling.

I know what your thinking…food stories? Aside from my ability to have a wide variety of food delivered at the press of a button (Thanks seamless.com!), and my talent to coerce Fiance into cooking for me, I do not have a lot of “food stories.” I do eat out a lot, maybe that counts?

More Than Greens, explained this by simply saying she just really likes reading my blog, food-related or not! Well, that is the nicest thing anyone has said about my blog (anyone who isn’t related…)!

I don’t know if I am actually qualified to follow all the rules and regulations of Food Stories, so I won’t even bother. But, in lieu of nominating 5 more blogs, I will just tell you about 5 super awesome blogs that I follow.

Obviously, I follow New York Whimsy, not just because the amazing Zoey writes it, but because it’s funny, full of stupid cats, a few DIY projects, and some pretty cool stuff to do in NYC.

Next, I am absolutely obsessed with Momastery. If you are not a monkee or haven’t heard of Gretchen “G”, and her famous blog, and recent book deal, then you are seriously missing out. This lady says everything I’m thinking and feeling with such hilarity, wit, and compassion, it’s almost unbelievable. I laugh, cry, and feel inspired by so many of her posts. I would guarantee you’ll love her, but her “brutiful” openness will rub some of you the wrong way… which is too bad.

Another blog I love is Artful Anxiety. AA and I are share a special trait, and I can very often relate to her blogs about fear and panic. She is a strong person and writer, and I appreciate her honesty.

Fourthly, is Le Zoe Musings. This blog is written by a Mother who I am completely jealous of. She is BEAUTIFUL and so talented. Her blog is full of the most ridiculous pictures of her house, kid, family, clothes, plants, purses, you name it! She is a phenomenal decorator and photographer, and owns more designer bags than a Kardashian. She’s fabulous.

And, finally, I love Hella Sydney. This American girl living in Australia is hella funny, hella candid, and hella adventurous… a girl after my own heart!

I feel sad now for all the blogs that I didn’t post about… There’s just too many good writers out there! You all rock.

K, that’s all I can handle today. I am caffeine-free at the moment, and my eyelids are unable to hold themselves open any longer.

Thanks for reading!

Cheers!